One of the greatest things I have learnt about being a mum, is how important time for me is. I don’t mean going out at night and drinking, or even getting to the grocery store … It’s more about creating the space for quiet and calm, either before the day starts, or at the end before getting ready for bed.
I have tried having that calm time at the end of the day, some evening stretching and calmness, but it always felt rushed, like I was in a hurry to go to bed … It’s taken some time but I now roll out of bed at 5.30am to take that time for myself. I go through stages of doing exercise first thing in the morning, but at the moment it’s about writing, meditation, and gentle stretching. I try and keep my thoughts quiet and calm, and I prepare for my day.
I know that for most people the idea of getting up so early when, as a mum, you already feel sleep deprived, is crazy, but it is a practice that has become very important to me over a relatively short period of time. It wasn’t easy, (AT ALL!) to start down this track, but I was feeling rushed in the mornings, I felt behind the times before the day had even started if the kids were the ones to wake me up.
I tried getting up in anticipation about 10-15 mins before they were normally waking, but I quickly learned that you can’t get that very well-timed, as kids wake at all times of the night, and morning. Giving myself an hour between 5.30-6.30am gives me flexibility to have time for myself and also work with the fluctuating waking times of the kids.
This morning I rolled out of bed feeling a bit overwhelmed thinking about the day ahead. Lots on, and limited time to do it in, plus hubby is away and not back till very late this evening. After 10mins meditation, 10mins journal writing, and writing in my gratitude diary, and then 10mins of morning yoga … I feel organised, disciplined and no longer dreading the day ahead. I know that I’m an organised and disciplined person, I have given thought to how I’m juggling all the things in my day, have asked for help for one after-school activity from a friend, and feel confident and calm about how it’s all going to unfold.
Without my ‘ME-Time’ morning routine, I would be starting the day in a completely different way, and feeling harassed and impatient over every little thing on the way.
This system is an integral part of my Modern, Busy, Mum life, and I’m a better mother for it.