It’s such a tricky one because we’d all like to be right. No kidding. We all want to get the right answer, be able to help people the right way, and give the right advice. It doesn’t really work that way.
There is a ‘right’ way for you to do something, but it may not be the ‘right’ way for somebody else to act. My hubby and I worked out that that is definitely the case with us. I’m more the ‘stick’ kind of person behind the kids with consequences, time outs and high expectations about what should be done and how. He is more the ‘carrot’ type of person, who likes to dangle the positive things in front of them for a job well done.
That’s all very good and well, but the wheels definitely start coming off when one person tries to act and discipline, talk and encourage like the other one does. Suddenly it’s no longer authentic, and the kids are confused and no longer listening.
I would say – be clear on who you are. Be the best version of yourself, and allow others to be the best versions of themselves, and then most things will be easier to resolve, be it encouraging the kids to get dressed in the morning, or tidying their room.