As parents (read mums), we sometimes have a bit of a disconnect between what it means to be a mum, to be working (or at home running the household), and to also be ourselves.
Previously we weren’t parents, previously we didn’t spend a large chunk of the day cleaning and washing and tidying (our homes never got that dirty during the week), and previously we had a lot of time to do whatever took our fancy. Stay late at work and finish that task, go out with friends for a drink before coming home, having a late tea because hubby/ boyfriend had a late night meeting, lying down on the couch at home and watching mindless TV cause we had a bad day. We often feel that those things that we did before we had kids were somehow more US, that somehow we were more able to be OURSELVES back then.
Is that really true? Do you look back on your life at university and wish that you were still that person? True it was great to have no responsibilities but do we really want that again?
The truth as I see it is that life is a journey, and who we are changes with new friends, new jobs, new responsibility, new opportunity, new growth. So I’ve come to start doing meditation and yoga every morning … it’s a weird thing to admit, because that person who does yoga and meditation was someone who, 5 years ago, I never ever wanted to be.
Did my kids push me into it? No, of course not, but it definitely feels more refreshing and calming, and that is something that I never looked at wanting when I was younger.
So, am I really missing out on ME by being a parent, or am I just evolving who I am as I travel this road of life?
My life includes being a parent, being a business owner, being a writer, being a member of my community, being a good friend, a passionate and engaging wife and lover, being fit and healthy, being a lifelong learner …. and, and, and …… many more things as my life grows and evolves. The trick for me is to appreciate, be present and be grateful for whatever ME time I have, at whatever stage of my life I am at.