This morning I was struggling. I couldn’t even blame the kids although that was what I initially leaned towards doing. That would have made me being unmotivated okay, wouldn’t it? “The kids drained my energy cause I had to deal with one thing after another” … “The kids were so slow and sluggish this morning that I needed to hurry them along and now I feel like I’ve lived 5 hours of my day already” …
These are definitely some of the things that I hear about motivation when I talk to other mums, and I think that this is at the core of the problem. Maybe there isn’t such a thing as real motivation outside of ourselves, maybe it isn’t possible to get it taken from us, or to get it from other people, maybe …. just maybe we have to find our own motivation within us, and maybe we too are our own worst enemy and we are the ones who take it away.
So this morning – feeling blah, unmotivated, wanted to blame everyone else … I sat myself down and worked through a few things that work like triggers in me to rev me up again. I did my meditation, my journaling, my gratitude diary, I helped with the kids around the house, and I still wasn’t feeling it … I sent out some chat messages to some friends – “Can we meet up for lunch?” “Are you home later? I’ll ring and have a catch up.” I know that for me, I get energy from being around other people, I’m a true extrovert, and my sluggish, unmotivated behaviour this morning was a real sign that I’d been hiding myself away from the world a bit, excited by my writing, excited by getting jobs ticked off at home, but I was neglecting a very important part of myself. My Crazy Extrovert.
For others it would be different, but over the last couple of years I have really worked on where my energy lies and in really owning my own personality. By knowing myself I’m able to quickly find my groove again. I was starting to feel better about doing things and looking forward to my day, now that I knew I had people in it – but for those other extroverts out there we have something else to connect us to people, we have the internet. So I quickly sent off some more messages to friends, asking what they thought my three best qualities were, not for my ego, but for me to do some more work on my strengths, and tailor my day to suit my strengths particularly since I was feeling a bit down. It wasn’t just the words that cheered me up either, it was the return of the contact, soothing to my inner extrovert – someone responded, people are out there, I’m connecting. All things to bring me up.
And then – I went for a bike-ride – there is something pretty special about exercise to shake away those lasting icky effects of a down day. My dog was ecstatic at racing along beside me, and I blew the last effects of my off morning away –
Motivation is different for each of us, but it is in us if we know ourselves, or we can find it if we play to our strengths.
Have a great day!