I’ve booked my parent/ teacher interviews. 15 minutes per child to talk about … what?
This is the thing – 15 minutes isn’t enough time. It isn’t enough time if there are issues that need addressing. It isn’t enough time to talk about where we are heading with our learning. It isn’t enough time to find out what is really going on in the classroom. I do have some issues, but they are probably not the issues that the teacher wants to talk about. I know about the dance that happens in a parent/ teacher interview, I too am a trained teacher, I too used to play the game, dance the steps, and try to keep to the script set by the ones in charge. As a parent? I don’t like the script. If there were any issues, then the teacher should have already contacted me, where my children are at academically right now, is sort-of irrelevant, it’ll change. What I want to know is where the teacher is going with my child, what are they working hard to bring out? What is the next step?
I am not a fun parent to have in parent/ teacher interviews. I get the teachers back up, I cause them to become defensive, I know too much, I have become THAT parent.
The thing is … I don’t feel bad about that. I don’t want to put my children’s teachers off-side, and I’m the quickest person to defend them, when people talk about them have a cushy 9-to-3 job, and yet, I am the only person that is standing up for my children. That is why I don’t feel bad. I am my children’s only advocate. Yes, I know that the teacher is there too, I know that there are friends, and other parents and other people in my children’s lives, but the buck stops with me. I need to be the one to ask the difficult questions, and follow-up with the difficult discussions.