There is a real tug, when the focus of your weekend changes. It used to be all about you, and now …. not so much. In fact, once the kids are playing sports on the weekends, it is not about you AT ALL!
In our family, soccer is the sport that takes up our weekend, and for us that means four children playing soccer, although we are lucky that two of them are in the same team, so that is only 6 games to watch every Sunday. But basically, that means that anything that we want to do that is not sport has to happen on a Saturday … after 11am, because the kids have karate training. You see what I mean? The weekend is now about the kids.
I remember that moment when I realised the way it was going to be. There were two feelings running through me, pleasure that my kids were now old enough to be a part of the team sports world, and horror at the time that it took up, and the lack of ‘me’ time that I would consequently get. Socialising with friends, now has to work around sport, and you can’t be out too late the night before because there is nothing worse than being tired, and maybe a little hung-over standing on the side of the sports field, while adults yell encouragement from all angles.
But then … is it all bad? We never became the sportsmen and sportswomen that we dreamed of becoming, but maybe our children will. Coaching in the sports that we love, becomes a real possibility and our love for the game can grow, as we pass on our knowledge. Standing on the side-lines has positives too, we bond with the parents of our kids friends in ways that we would never have time to in our every day lives. We suffer together in the freezing winter winds, we share our tribulations from the past week, and make plans to catch up again next weekend, on the next sports-field. We watch our children’s successes, and we console their losses, and we know that this is their time to grow a love for sport, and to learn about teamwork.
So the next time, we roll our eyes at the loss of our weekends, take a moment and reflect on the Happiness that grows from the shared love of sport, the time spent with our children, the Happiness that they feel that we are watching them and the relationships we grow with the people in our community.
How did you enjoy your weekend with your children?