I have a wee dilemma. One that I expected eventually, but not just yet.
My 3rd child has decided he’d like to play a different sport to his siblings. He wants to have a go at hockey.
Today was the free, fun day for hockey and that is where we went. All the while, I’m shaking my head in disbelief. Why am I here? This really doesn’t suit my life at all. How is this going to work? Games for soccer, and games for hockey are on at the same time, I can’t make this happen easily or at all. All my kids play soccer. Granted, the choice came from my oldest boy, and then quite by accident, or design, they are now all playing soccer, all doing really well at soccer, and in fact I coached my daughters team last year, and their father coaches the two youngest and is on the soccer committee. So, we are a soccer family…. and then one wants to play hockey.
It is a dilemma for me, this is a choice that my 3rd child has the right to make. It may be his thing, and so that is why I am standing on the side-lines watching him have a great time with stick in hand. The next thing I know is that my youngest child is in there as well, having just as much fun. It is never easy in these sorts of situations, and I’m loathe to play the heavy-hand and just say, “No”. I understand that he wants to be a little different, I understand that he really likes the game, and I get it. I get it, but I’m not sure if I’m ok with it.
I know a lot of parents in our area, which is rural, choose the sports for their children because of the travel involved to get them to games. I understand that this is sometimes that only way it works, but if I’m going to be the parent I want to be, and instil independence and confidence in my children, in a way that celebrates their individuality, and their strengths, then I have a dilemma.
It is not going to be easy, it is going to make the second term of school insanely crazy, but somehow I have to be ok with the craziness and allow the individuality to flourish.