Bad attitude from your kids … This is something that I am dealing with at the moment and, to be honest, I’m not sure if I’m dealing with it well…
But these are the things that I tell myself as I handle this stage of parenthood:
They have the right to express themselves how they wish to …
They are going to show attitude as they begin to develop their identities
If both of the above statements are true, then my reaction is completely up to me.
I know this isn’t what you were hoping for, but I do feel strongly that a lot of OUR unhappiness around our children’s bad attitude comes squarely down on our own shoulders.
We want our children to grow up with a voice and a way to express it
We want our children to have their own identities
And if both of those statements are true then we are going to get some attitude from our children as they learn about themselves
Of course, I’m not saying that you should just allow bad attitude to run rampant, there are still rules in our house around bad language, rudeness and bad manners, and it is still our job as parents to instil boundaries, and make decisions about what is appropriate for the household.
What I am suggesting is that you leave the pressure and frustration that a bad attitude brings behind. I’m suggesting that, if something is inevitable, and a part of growing up, making yourself unhappy and angry about it is going to waste a lot of energy. Take the emotion out of it and put up the rules and then stick to them.
How you react, and feel, is up to you, and you will be a happier parent if anger and frustration is not a part of your day. Of course I also didn’t say it would be easy …