When we were kids we thought we had it hard with all the tidying and jobs we had to do at home.
When we were teenagers we thought we had it hard trying to make an impact and be our own person.
When we did tertiary education we thought we had it hard keeping up with our classes and enjoying our social life.
When we got our first job, life was tough too. Suddenly we were big people and needed to pay for our own bills, and organise our own insurance and crazy stuff like that …
Moving in with the boyfriend, getting engaged, living in a de facto relationship, even getting married – more pressure.
But nothing says pressure like having children!
I was reminded of something over the weekend – “You will never know anger until you have your own children – but you will never know love either” (It’s not an exact quote but that’s how I remember it).
There is so much pressure to ‘get-things-right’ when you have kids. Make the ‘best’ decisions, not lose your temper, keep up with the Jones’ and teach manners and morals. We put so much pressure on ourselves, we perpetrate our own pressure, we grow the stress.
I am reminded this morning of this – my children will make me angry, they hold a mirror up to me, and my own insecurities, and yet this is normal, I am reminded that I also am learning about ‘Love’ – and there is happiness and joy in that – this is normal too.
It’s important to focus on the positives and the good, as well as trying to improve and learn from the mistakes, and challenges.
Good luck with that this week – I’d love to hear about the two sides of this in your family – What’s your parenting challenge this week? What is your parenting joy?