Are you the parent that you want to be?
Just like everything else that we are successful in, you need to make and then meet goals in our parenting to be successful.
Now, successful for me, looks very different from successful for you – but it’s all about making a decision and following through.
For example – maybe you want to make it a priority to read to your children before bed, but bedtime is the same time as the news, and the kids and you are always grumpy. This is the time to make some goals for you …. reading to your kids is important, at that time of the day it’s stressful. One idea here, would be to read them a book before tea, or pick a time that the kids can monitor, and then you make it a priority. Another idea, would be to record the news, or the TV programme that you love, so that you don’t feel like you are squashing your kids into the ad breaks – and this can turn this one problem into success for you.
Another thing I hear a lot, is parents who don’t want to start the day yelling at their kids. It comes down to making the goal to get out of bed earlier in the morning, so you are organised, or setting the breakfast table at night so that the day starts smoother. Sometimes it might just come down to you making your own tick-chart, where you restrain from yelling when things get stressful and you can give yourself a BIG TICK!
A lot of our behaviour is habit as well, so give yourself some goals and some incentives to be successful.
I would love to hear what you are working on in your parenting … mine for this next week, is to be present where my children are rather than parenting through the walls.