As a parent, particularly as a mum, we have occasionally been in the situation where we have asked ourselves if our current behavioural problem with our children is our fault?
The short answer to this is … yes, we could be the problem.
The long answer is a bit more complicated.
The thing is, children are going to act out behaviourally at some point, and if it’s not your fault, then it will be somebody else’s fault. The thing is that it is much more favourable if you as the Mum is at fault in some way, because as actively, engaged parents, and adults, we can then make some changes to our own behaviour, or put some things in place to make the impact of our own personalities less extreme. If it is somebody else’s fault, there is not a lot we can do about it to change ANOTHER persons actions – we can only then be there in support of our child when they need it.
So the next time, you ask yourself this question – Am I the Problem? – take a big deep breath, let the guilt go, and accept that that may not be the worst case scenario out there.