Sometimes we just want to hide in our home, corral the children and keep everything under our thumb. And then sometimes it’s good to go a bit out there and do different things, go out for lunch, stay in a tent, meet up with different people.
There is a place when you are a parent for both of these scenarios, but when the kids are tired, you are tired and it’s the school holidays … then there is a balance to be found. And we don’t always get it right.
This is the thing – with kids it rarely, if ever goes perfectly to plan, and even when it does, it wasn’t quite what you thought it should or could’ve been, so when you feel things are tipping to the pear-shaped side of life. Take a deep breath and embrace the slide. Let go of the expectations, let go of the stress, the tension, and just go with it, for as long as it takes until you are back on firm soil.
Just like driving on gravel, or walking down a steep, muddy slope, things rarely get better by slamming the brakes on too hard. Get out there and do the stuff that is a bit more exciting, and yes a bit more stressful, and then come home and relax.
There has to be a balance. Routine is awesome, but different stuff is awesome for kids too, and they need both, even when we would prefer that they just stuck to the routine.
Plan a couple of different experiences for the holidays – maybe only 1 if you’re new to this – and try and be present and happy for the new experience, even if the thing that you would rather be doing is putting the kids in front of a movie for the afternoon.
Would love to know what things you are planning to do with the kids ….