I made a mistake – not a big one, but the ramifications for the beginning of the week are huge.
There are no smooth transitions in my house this morning – there is tears, grumpiness, and regret that I didn’t act through yesterday like I should have.
We’ve spent the weekend camping, and the kids are tired. Not just the kids either – hubby and I haven’t really slept, and we all basically got home and chilled out. Kids played happily and read – no stress, everyone was happy.
Of course I had loads and loads of washing to do, but it slowly got done and at least there was a breeze that kept the turnover high.
The point to all this is MY MISTAKE.
I didn’t insist that all the toys be put away last night, in fact I sort of tried to get them to do it, but I looked at the time, I reasoned that the kids actually all needed a bath, and a hair wash, and because I hadn’t been on to it enough, it just wasn’t going to work – especially since I really needed the kids to have an early night (they didn’t by the way – still up with excuses after 8pm), and I thought that maybe I could do it later …. blah, blah, blah.
I broke my own rule! I broke the rule that the kids are actually fine with – that they are actually great at doing, and do quickly and well. What was I thinking??????
And this morning – the house is a mess. It is a school day, the cleaner is coming, I’m stressed because I can’t find my wallet, I didn’t quite get every load on the line, there are piles of clothes to be folded away sitting on the couch, and it’s RAINING!
Just one of those days that I didn’t see coming, that I don’t enjoy, and that is COMPLETELY my own fault.
So, how do I move on from here????
- breathing would be good
- slowing down would be better (I found my wallet, when I stopped to think where I was when I last used it – and what if it had fallen out of my pocket where I had been sitting…)
- Realising that it’s NOT THAT BAD – it’s really just not that bad. I’ve got myself all flustered but it’s still only 7.49am, and basically everything is done – it just hasn’t been smooth sailing – but it’s all done.
- Focus on the moment – it’s really easy to get caught up in your own head about all the things that need to be done, and the dwindling time available – my day today looks like a mess! School drop off, groceries, bills to pay, work waiting to do, online meeting that’ll go for an hour, post-camping organising, more work needed and follow–up, after school activities – swimming, jazz and ballet. Thinking about it all in advance just speeds up my heart rate, focusing on what I’m doing right now, and doing that part right, is much more effective.
- Take a moment to APPRECIATE what you actually got done this morning – exercise 30mins, yoga 15mins, meditation 10mins, listened to a child’s reading book, showered, had a smoothie, tidied out under the seats of my car (looking for wallet), supervised house tidying (not smoothly but it did happen), and started this blog. It’s 8am and a lot has been achieved.
- Smile – a mood is always improved when you smile – even if it’s a little self-depreciating, or ironic, or slightly guilt-ridden.
Good luck out there today xx