Just as you are about to give up.
Just as it seems way too hard and you start second-guessing yourself.
Just as you have got to the end of your tether ….. this is the ‘Period of Struggle’ that is often the pre-cursor for everything falling into place.
Bedtime, Dinner-time eating, Breakfast-time eating, Bedroom tidying …. all of these moments are a struggle at times, as the kids press up against the boundaries, as they protest the time they go to bed, or the type of food that you are cooking for them.
This ‘Period of Struggle’ is often a really important time in our parenting. It makes things clear in our own heads about what is actually important to us as parents. It makes us evaluate the rules, even come up with a rule … without this Period of Struggle, we would just waft through life without an opinion, without a say in how we are raising our kids, it’s a big kinda-deal.
It is also frustrating, irritating, brain numbing, questioning, sanity stripping, and sometimes can also be really hard work, and then suddenly the kids wake up one day and they get it. They know the ‘rule’ without you having to explain it AGAIN. They know that it is ‘outside time’ after morning tea in the weekends, they know – even though they are grumpy – that it is bedtime. And sometimes they even pre-empt the ‘rule’ and get in there first with the suggestion.
So, what am I going to say about this?
Be sure that what is important to you is what you are focusing on in your parenting
Just before the dawn breaks it is often the darkest time of night.
The Period of Struggle is a positive thing to be going through if it is the catalyst for all the Happiness that you are looking for in your life.
Take some time this weekend to review whether you are being the Parent that you REALLY want to be …
Are the ‘Struggles’ the ones that you really want to be happening?
Have you just got lost?
Or are you marching on confidently to your own drum?
Be aware of who you are as a Parent …. and then celebrate it!