I believe that we learn a lot by listening to how others bring up their children. We get to see a different side of parenting that maybe doesn’t come completely naturally to us, but something that our children might benefit from.
I don’t believe that there is a one size fits all version of parenting, but I do believe that we have a natural default position – be it the way we were brought up, or the complete opposite of the way we were brought up, or even a fractious combination of both parents versions of parenting.
Without conversation, without debate, without looking into and discussing different ideas, how can we really grow. In my own research during my Parenting by Personality testing, and clients, I have managed to see that when a child’s personality is similar to another child’s it is the parenting of that personality type that makes a difference to confidence, happiness, and calmness in that child.
I’m not saying that any of us as Parents are doing it wrong, but I am interested in how someone else is parenting that may help my relationship with my own son or daughter – that discussion could be hugely rewarding and eye-opening.
My style of parenting is often described as an Executive style – I love to teach my children independence, and I’m very fair with rules and organisation. That isn’t to say that I couldn’t learn a lot from the “Totally There Mother” who is more available for her children. I have a child that could benefit hugely by my playing a bit of a different role in my own parenting and trying out different hats for size as I have opportunity.
Something to think about this weekend …. why don’t you start a conversation with someone about parenting styles, and be open-minded – you might learn something….