Two weeks of holidays has been wonderful – we haven’t really gone anywhere, we haven’t really done too much, but we are all rested, all recovered from the first term, and ready to go.
Sort of ….
It’s only 7.30am. Everything is done. Bags are packed, lunchboxes full, drink-bottles in, and book bags found. Their after-school bags are sorted for swimming and ballet lessons, and hubby has left for work already. So, we are ready.
My 5 year old has decided he’d like to move classrooms this term – purely a nervous reflex because of a change in his classroom I suspect. He will have two teachers this term, as there is a share-teaching scenario happening … and even the wee text from his teacher that I showed him this morning was not really enough to make him feel comfortable. – So I’m not sure he’s ready….. again.
My 6 year – opps 7 year old – is pretty happy about going back to school. He saw a lot of his friends over the holidays though, with some birthdays, and soccer practices with his closest friends. He is nervous about the fact that he didn’t do any of his holiday reading though – something that is purely optional. So, he is feeling a bit nervous.
My 9 year old is quiet this morning – hanging out in her bedroom, not saying too much, internalizing her stress and trying to manage the panic. Not from school, but from meeting up with her friends again, and trying to decide if they are all still her friends. I have just encouraged her to go and do some ballet practice to get her out of her own thoughts.
My 10 year old – is preparing for his day. He knows that there is going to be a lot of bustle and noise in the classroom and instead of playing with his siblings, which is normal for him, he is quietly taking stock in his own space and building up his energy. It’s wonderful to see him at this stage where he knows that he needs this time. So, not nervous about the upcoming day, but wary, and thoughtful.
All of the above scenarios are completely typical of the personality preferences of my children. My temperament is to talk to them about it and get it all out, but I’m holding back this morning from my natural reaction and just letting my two introverted children reflect in their own way. I’m getting my extraverted children to move and be physical, so that they are not too reflective and exhaust themselves with their own internal conversations.
So, we are ready. And yet not completely.
There is always some trepidation in kids when they go back to school. Here are my tips for the nerves:
- They may not show it overtly or they might, depending on their personality. Either way that is normal for them is fine. Just be aware that there could be nerves.
- Two weeks holiday can be a long time, especially if you’ve gone away and done a lot.
- Even though you have been hanging out for some adult conversation and activity, be aware that after school on the first day, your children may just need you to be around. So, make yourselves available if they need to talk.
- Remember again what they like to do after school – do they like conversation or quiet time? Are they starving or dehydrated? (Lots of kids don’t like to drink from the drinking fountains at school and so can go all day without water).
- If possible, a couple of earlier nights this week wouldn’t be a bad thing. Getting back into the mental game is tiring.
Have fun this week xx