Being woken before 5am with a the call “I’m wet!”
Then having loud conversations between children, jumping on beds and general hilarity between the hours of 5-6am. A hubby who decided he was out of there for a run – since he was awake anyway, and a rapidly dissolving temper, and the beginnings of a headache, do not make for an harmonious morning.
In full disclosure: I have definitely yelled at my children this morning.
However – this isn’t the parent that I ultimately want to be, and all it does is create ongoing problems through the day, as my energy rubs up against that of my children’s energy – and I could be in for a VERY long day.
So, this morning is about finding a wee corner in my world, a place, a project, or even a messy kitchen drawer would suffice, to organise, control and complete. I know that I’m known as a ‘Judging’ personality. So when my world starts to feel a little out of control, this is the quickest, and the most painless way to get back on track.
An email that I’d been putting off all yesterday became my project, and within 10 minutes the job is done, my energy is back and I’m no longer yelling at my kids.
How we like our world structured is one of the main reasons that we struggle to get along with our kids (hubby) within our home environment (how we get our energy is the other main one), and getting back on track with this can be really easy. If you too, are a structured, routined, highly organised person that doesn’t cope well when plans are changed – finding a ‘place, or project to organise, control and complete’ would help you get your energy and balance back too.
If you are more of a spontaneous person who is more laid-back, more relaxed, often changes plans happily if something better comes along, then the best way to get your energy back when your reaching breaking point is to do something that is really different from normal – ‘find some freedom from a tight structure’ – anything organised and the same same as yesterday and the day before is likely to increase frustration. Do something way different – crank up the tunes, make your kids something random for lunch – bake a cake with the kids, even if they’re later to school than normal. Dress up in ‘nice’ clothes for the kindy drop-off.
I keep little reminders lying around to help pick my energy up – and this morning I needed it!
The result – my youngest bringing me my green smoothie, another son happily telling me that he’s finished his morning jobs and can he please have a piece of paper to draw on. My older children, cranking tunes in the living room with their dad, organising their lunchboxes for school. The clouds clearing to a beautiful-blue-sky Autumn day, and a smile on my face.
How things can change from hour to hour!