Sometimes we try and over- complicate parenting. We try too hard to over- analyses everything, read something into everything, respond to every bad comment, every dropped lip, every job not completed.
Sometimes we need to let it be easy.
Sometimes, the reason things are going wrong is because kids are tired – just tired – and if we acknowledge this, understand that it’s a big factor in the coping mechanisms in our children then we too will get through some of the challenging times less stressed.
For me Thursday is a catalyst day. There are often tears for the school pick up onwards, sports practices don’t always go to plan, and I almost start to dream of bad weather rolling in so that we can go home after school and stay there.
Friday is about exercising patience, lots of cuddles and giving each of my children what they need.
Sometimes bad behaviour is not because our kids are being naughty, or bad, or disobedient, we don’t always need an intervention to deal with the talking back, or the reactions, or the sulking.
I spend a lot of time on a Friday reminding myself that the tears and nastiness is an end of the week thing. There are times when I take the kids back to their bedrooms, or times when I get them to come up with ways to behave better, or make something better after the fact, but I don’t heap more problems on top of them. I don’t make it about something else.
I explain, it’s been a big week, we are all struggling to cope a little, and I try to be clear and concise in any communication, or when I ask the kids to do anything. And because this seems to run around the same every week, I’m able to let my parenting be easy. I let things go, I understand what’s going on. I don’t suddenly leap to the conclusion that everything is falling apart or that I’m failing.
Parenting on a Friday is easy – I remember that tomorrow is Saturday. I remember that tomorrow is the day we can start more relaxed. I’ve just remembered that tomorrow will be even more easy because there is no karate.
Perfect timing – a rest day.