No doubt there are some mornings that we get a little frustrated with the wee quirks and traits of our children.
This morning I’m taking things a little slow and instead of being in the space with my kids, I’m in my bedroom listening to them.
My extreme rule- follower has made a couple of appearances to let me know of various infractions that have been committed by his siblings. My other rule follower (although not as extreme) is bemoaning the rules being broken in a really loud voice hoping I’ll hear. My “I-can’t-be-bothered-with-rules” kid is the cause of all the friction for both ‘rule followers’ and he’s obviously enjoying getting attention for it.
By themselves, we might see the traits that I’ve outlined above good or bad, but really they are neither. The rule followers will find school easier, although maybe friendships harder, and the opposite for my non- rule follower ….. But all traits have positives depending on how and when they use them.
This morning, I just want the rule followers to let stuff go – most of what they worry about is irrelevant for getting ready for school, and yet I can’t leap out into the space and start reprimanding them, just because in this moment it happens to irritate me ….
Kids are very honest and truthful in who they are, unless we confuse them.
So, despite the mild irritation and the exactness of the conversations I’m listening too, I’m sitting back feeling amused at the personalities that are evident in the kids I’ve got. Loving the individuals and the things that spark their personalities is a much calmer way for me to start the morning too.
I haven’t heard anything from one child for 20 minutes however, so that may be a sign that I need to enter into the morning routine myself.
What mildly irritating personality traits could you be more loving towards in your children today? I’d love to hear about it.