I struggle with this. Not because it is part of my makeup but because it is a part of two of my children’s preferences.
We’ve had a busy long weekend. A couple of long drives, some World Cup live U20 soccer matches, and the kids own soccer games. Lots of external activities, and therefore too much external stimulation for my wee introverts.
My kids are not obviously shy, or obviously quiet – in fact they are boisterous and talkative, and introverts they still are. How can that be?
Their energy is still internally generated. They need time for reflection, for alone time in spite of their need to want to be in the action. And sometimes I definitely need to walk away.
The final straw for my introverts was the highly energetic soccer games they played – one child won their second game and one child lost their second game but their reactions were the same. Sulking, upsetness, grumpiness, no friendly conversation, needing food, and alone time.
My temptation is to talk it out, to worry if they are not talking to me about what is bothering them.
My challenge is to let it go, and deal with it later once they have had a chance to rejuvenate.
My understanding of myself means that I need to recognize that this will be difficult for me, however very important in my role as mum.
Acknowledging this makes the struggle to understand the personality preferences of my children, that are different to my own, easier.