As mums, we have the unenviable task of trying to wade through the “are they sick?” question. And we have been caught out before too.
We’ve let them stay home, only to discover that actually they are fine, we’ve sent them to school, only to receive a phone call later in the day asking us to collect our obviously sick child.
This is my dilemma this morning – I have a sick child ….. Maybe. He’s started both mornings of the last couple of days with a headache, and he’s finished both days with a headache. I’m wondering if he’s dehydrated, maybe he’s tired … Maybe he really is sick.
I have had a word to his teacher, but was never contacted yesterday, and my gut instinct tells me that he’s actually fine for school. So he’s getting ready for school, quite happily actually, another tick in the box, and yet I know that for the rest of the day I am going to be carrying my phone close and almost expecting a phone call.
Everything I do today is going to be laced with the little niggle of doubt, the expectation of a phone call …. and this is the brain tiredness that we have as mums.
I am no longer up half the night with a baby, but it doesn’t mean that I’ve completely lost that brain fog, the slightly distracted doing of things but not really thinking about them. There is often a frisson of worry, of constant thought, of adding up the pros and cons of decisions, of driving somewhere and not remembering the route that I took.
Depending on our personalities we will cope with these things in slightly different ways. Take in information, make our decisions, structure our day, and get our energy all in our own unique ways.
For me, today, I have taken in the information of the headaches, of how my son is acting purely from a gut feeling place – that’s a strength that I have, and the way that my personality is- my decision about sending him to school though, is based in logic – my Thinking personality rather than Feelings based – however, I am now re-structuring the things that I need to do today to allow for any un-planned phone calls from school – allowing my highly structured and routines personality preference time to fit in something unexpected.
Using Personality Preferences, and understanding our own preferences as well as learning about our children’s preferences can really help in parenting with ease, and slowing down the constant chatter in our heads when we come up against these questions like “is my child really sick, or just tired?”
I’ll let you know how it goes and whether I made the right decision later today…
PS- If you want some help in breaking down personality preferences in your family then please get in touch. I’d love to help you Parent with Happiness!