My son comes into see me this morning with an idea. He wants to re-organize the Lego.
This Judging characteristic warms my own Judging heart … However experience has taught me that his idea isn’t necessarily going to work, but I don’t want to crush his idea either.
I asked some more questions ….
“How is that going to work?”
“How long do you think that will take?”
“Do we have everything you need?”
We figured out that before he starts re-organizing, he needs some more time to think out how it’s going to work.
The thing is I know it’s not going to work, but I also know that being in charge of a project is really important to him (Thinking Preference) and I know that he loves rules and routines (Judging Preference) so a simple “no, you can’t do that” wouldn’t have been in his best interests, wouldn’t have set him up well for the school day ahead, and really isn’t that big a deal.
Children have ideas like this all the time. They have active imaginations and they haven’t got much experience of how things work, so if it’s not dangerous, not too messy and actually will have a positive effect on their energy and mood, it can be really important to validate some of their ideas and let them have a go.
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