We all parent a little bit differently.
We all have different rules, routines, excitements, personalities, and beliefs.
And yet, there is something special about having girlfriends to offload to. Other women who, may not do things exactly the same as you but, appreciate what you are doing, are accepting of you, and help you de-stress. You don’t even need to talk about kids with your girlfriends, in fact sometimes you shouldn’t, but you DO need friends who can take the other stresses from your shoulders so that you don’t snap at your kids over minor things.
Having a coffee, sipping wine in the evening, going for a walk, all the while chatting, off-loading and de-stressing. I’m a big believer in ‘personality differences’ but on this point there isn’t even a conflict.
If you are more introverted then it would be normal for you to have 1 or 2 close friends that you would share your world with. If you are an extravert then you would have shared and off-loaded with a variety of people, friends (many of them), as well as other people who have crossed your path including your kids swimming teacher, or even the lady in Paper Plus. However you offload is fine.
Don’t knock this parenting tool, because it really is a help to our parenting. If we offload, then we are serving our families better by keeping the stresses away from the surface, and helping us to keep our patience.
Think about who your ‘go-to’ people are when you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed.