I’m watching my kids this morning, and I have some twinges of worry. They are not particularly focused, they’ve got a little lazy on basic manners, and some household rules have been relaxed over the summer.
These aren’t the things that I’m worried about, having a break from normal life can be a good thing.
What I’m actually looking at is how their personalities work.
One child has turned not getting dressed in the morning into a sneaky art form, and suddenly we also have a blanket draped around the shoulders too. Another child is getting things done at the slowest pace possible, wondering around aimlessly, while achieving zilch, even missing out on breakfast because of the lack of focus. Another child is avoiding any form of organisation, while the fourth is focused so completely on everyone else, that they are not following through on their own stuff.
By themselves these habits, avoidance tactics are not such a big deal but it does give me signposts for the areas that my children need some support in.
Taking the above examples I can see that we need goals in:
- following basic rules even if they seem pointless
- teaching the advantage of focus
- looking outside of ourselves to be helpful
- looking within – and trusting everyone will be ok
These goals may seem counterproductive if they all related to the one child, but with 4 children it makes she’s that they would all be different.
If you are wondering about helping your own children with new year goals and moving into the new year, take some time to watch how they act without help or guidance from you. Are there areas that they let slide?
Taking the time to watch and take in our children’s behaviour rather than correct their behaviour gives us clues, and then we can make plans to focus on the areas of concern.