I do think about my own behaviour at a couple of times throughout the year and actively seek to identify where I can be a better mum and woman.
It’s really important that I don’t wallow too much in guilt, or “what-ifs” when I’m doing this. The task is for me to look ahead at how I want to be perceived by my children, who I want to be as a mum, and if there are any goals and aspirations that are important to me.
Taking stock of your role is so important. Being a parent is something that we can simply waltz through without much thought if we wanted to, it doesn’t actually require thinking if we don’t prioritise it. For me, thinking about my parenting, about my children is one of the most important things that I can do. I have no interest in ‘blanket parenting’ or ‘reactive parenting’ when I just throw out rules and punishments willy-nilly, without thinking about my children or about whether something is effective or not.
Enjoying my kids, enjoying my role as a mum, as a parent, is something I actively seek. Not just to be my kids friends – No – it’s about guiding and molding them into being the best people that they can be.
Focusing on each of my children’s strengths, being available to support them in their areas of weakness.
I do parent each of my children very differently, paying attention to their individual needs, and reflecting on my own practice, and where I can improve too.
Some tips on creating Mum Goals:
- Think about your family goals and beliefs
- Are there areas in your goals and beliefs that require more time and effort?
- Pick two points and actively seek to focus on them for the next month
- Break the month into smaller opportunities weekly, and daily and identify areas where you can start putting your time and focus.
- Write them down/ or put a reminder notification in your phone to keep you on track.