The new year has started, but I haven’t really.
My goals for the year (NOT that I would call them New Years Resolutions) but they were mild ideas of change and improvement for the year ahead, haven’t really got past a gentle nudge now and again.
The catch up on bills and paying things off from Christmas is just in it’s early stages.
The kids are starting to get grumpy at each other, and I’m ready for school to start … Sort of.
You see, I’m not organised with that either. I still need to buy stationery for the year ahead and sort the school uniform.
So, as I sit here on another Monday morning, there is a mild onset of panic.
Am I setting the year up the way I want it to go?
Do I even attempt to get things together yet, or do I wait till school goes back?
Why am I even panicking?
If it felt Summery, I think I’d just relax and enjoy myself. But on our return from our Summer holiday, I find myself wanting to get sorted, reorganize my home, go through toys, throw out stuff. The weather is ‘meh’ and I find myself in the house, so what else is there to do except get organised?
Don’t worry if your head hasn’t yet tuned into the new year stuff yet – we all move into this stuff at the right time for us, in the way that our personality dictates.
I’m someone who feels like I’m succeeding when I tick off wee projects, which gives me enough energy to cope with the demands of 4 children still home from school holidays, still re-learning our ‘home-rules’ after Christmas, and cousins, and swimming, and loose expectations, and limited sleep.
I think that at this time of year – those Judging personality types among us are all feeling a version of what I have described. And yet there are also those of us that have more of a Perceiving Personality type and are LOVING this freedom from a tight schedule. Staying in PJ’s till lunchtime? No problem!
When it comes to how we like our world structured there is nothing that points out these differences in our personalities like the Summer Hoidays.
One of the two scenarios above resonated with you, and we equally think that our version is more RIGHT. Obviously.
Part of the stress that we feel as mums, is if we have had to go back to work already, and resent the beginning of schedules again, OR, we are drained by all the lack of organsiation, and are stressed by the sense that NOTHING is being done.
Neither is actually ‘RIGHT’, but one of the versions is absolutely ‘RIGHT’ for us individually, and is crucial in how our energy is maintained. We instinctively know which version we prefer, but my question for you this morning is…
…which version do your children prefer?
If you are starting to get grumpy, whiney, ‘pain-in-the-neck’ children it could be because they are being drained by the structure, or lack of structure in your home.
It is still important that we keep our energy up – happy mum = happy home – and yet maybe allow some organisation to come back into your judging children’s world – get them to organize the Lego box, or the Barbies for example. IF your child is more on the Perceiving spectrum, they are obviously happier with the looseness of the holidays, unless of course you are highly judging and have a lot of organisation around the holidays too. Maybe let them do NOTHING one day except what they choose to do? Maybe don’t insist on them getting dressed before breakfast (although, full disclosure, I still can’t do this one, as it drives me nuts).
Enjoy the beginning of the week, and if things are getting grumpy in your home – give some thought to how you are getting your energy, and how your kids are getting theirs…
Remember no version is actually the PERFECT version, unless it synchs with your personality preference.