It’s one of the hardest things that we go through as mums – looking after ourselves.
And there is no RIGHT way to do this, because we are all different and all unique, and all require different things to build ourselves up. And the even harder thing is that we need to look after ourselves by ourselves. We can’t rely on our children to build us up (that should just be a wonderful bonus), we can’t rely on our partners to build us up (we need them to be our support, not our prop), we can’t rely on our friends to build us up (they are our fun, and have their own families), and so that leaves ‘us’.
We are a better parent, a better partner, a better friend, when we have been looking after ourselves – however that looks for us personally.
For me this morning, it meant going for a run with my dog, and enjoying nature. It would have been so easy for me to just roll out of bed and into the shower. It would be so easy for me to get dressed in nice clothes for the school drop off. It would be so easy for me to sit down at the computer and start with my work for the day, but something was more important today. Today I felt flat and felt like I needed something extra, something more, something for me. So, I got into my gym clothes, packed up my dog with my children for the drive into town, and instead of coming home and getting distracted, I stayed in town and went for a run around the lake.
It was lovely. It was important. And more than that, I feel great that I took that on myself to make me feel better, I didn’t try and get that from anyone else. There is something empowering about giving yourself the gift of care.
So, if you are feeling down, instead of looking to your children, hubby, partner, friends, family, look within yourself. The feeling and care that you can give yourself is much stronger when it comes honestly from yourself.