Children fight and argue and niggle at each other, and it can drive us crazy!
We think that it would be so much easier and life just so much more pleasant if the fighting just stopped. And that would be right. It would be better, it would be more pleasant, and yet we don’t do anything to help us get to that place.
And it is possible to stop the fighting. It really is.
Arguing in any of it’s forms, physical or verbal, is just communication, and if we know how our kids communicate then we can be available to help them through this fighting stage.
I have said this before, and I will keep saying it again and again, it comes down to knowing who your children are. It comes down to knowing if they are Extraverted, or Introverted. It’s about knowing how they process information, and about knowing what’s important to them when they make decisions. It’s also about knowing what makes them feel safe and secure in their environment, and the best part is that this stuff is all learn-able.
When I have friends come around to my house for a catch-up they are surprised to see that all of my kids are playing happily together. They enjoy each other’s company, and they can play really happily for an hour or more without me needing to be involved. Because I know who they are, at other times I insist on some quiet time, with each of them taking time to do some solo activities like reading or colouring in, or time on a device.
My kids have had shared bedrooms in the past, and I have recently decided to work it out so that they each have their own bedrooms, so whatever your situation, I can help you work out a solution to this.
If you want to know more about how to figure this out yourself – then simply sign up here over on the RIGHT of this page, and you can get a FREE E-book giving you an outline of how to go about working this stuff out. Or you can book an appointment, just by clicking on the ‘Book Appointment’ button – also on the right of this blog – your 20minute appointment with me is FREE as well.
If you don’t want to muck around though then come and work with me, and I will walk you through all of the steps, and help put a stop to the fighting in your home. This is the quickest and most effective solution to stop the fighting in your home.
Fighting is just a form of communication, and it is just a stage that you can work through with them. We can’t expect kids to be able to work this out for themselves. They do need some guidance on this, and they need to understand how to manage it themselves as they get older. This process works for toddlers, all the way through to teenagers, and it’s a lot of fun to see your kids personalities emerging rather than be focused on any negative fighting.
Flick me an email, and we will start working out how to put a stop to the fighting. It’s do-able. It’s not hard. It’s so worth it.