When things go wrong between kids, it is rarely because they have thought everything through and devised to do it anyway. But we can wade into arguments, fights and issues with the wrong energy, and shouting in frustration.
Kids often just think that potentially mean, or dangerous things, are funny in those initial stages. And more often than not, they are just as upset and shocked at what went wrong as the kid who might be hurt or upset.
Yelling in these moments, and laying blame can sometimes be the wrong thing to do. Kids feel guilt too, but they don’t know what guilt really is, and it can be very damaging to a young mind.
A hint for the upcoming weekend if you come across a sibling interaction where tears are involved from everyone,give everyone a hug. This can calm everyone down, as well as give you time to figure out your next move.
- Stay calm
- quieten the tears with a hug
- give everyone some time to themselves
- after some time talk to the kids about the right way to play
- move on
- BUT be present in their interactions for the rest of the day just in case there is something more going on that you need to deal with.