It’s easy when things have been going well for a while that we take our eyes off the prize.
We can get distracted and lose our parenting focus.
We can forget that our kids are just little people, and we erroneously focus on their behaviour or their attitude, rather than their individuality.
It is easy to tune out. Maybe we’ve had a bad day, maybe we have bills due, or maybe we are tired. All of this is possible, it’s all something that we deal with, sometimes well, and sometimes not well.
The point is that if you find yourself in this place, and not focused on the kids appropriately then take a breathe.
It is what it is.
Let it go, apologise to your kids if you need to, and don’t let guilt in.
Gather yourself, re-focus on your individual children’s needs, and you will find yourself relax and settle. When things are getting hard for us, we tend to turn inward, and get caught up in the internal monologue. Kids have no way of knowing what our internal thoughts are and they can only go from our actions.
Change your actions – re-focus – move on.