Hanging out with a heap of pre-teens this week is a wonderful reminder that we can’t make judgments on first impressions of kids either.
I fully believe that there is too much judgment on parents, which can be detrimental to raising kids, but I hadn’t thought about the judgments we make on children.
Going back to school this week has reminded me why I love this challenging age (10-13yrs), they have taken on the roles of that stereotype that they think they most suit. And yet, outside of their comfort zone, like rock climbing, it’s clear that the face they are showing the world is very fragile still.
The loud obnoxious kids falter under the pressure to perform. The quiet ones step up and perform with ease. Stereotypes shatter and kids learn about each other in a different way. The popular kid who talks with encouragement to the scared, less popular kid struggling to get back down the cliff face. The teamwork needed to complete a task, and then the relief that they all got to the end of the day in one piece.
There is a lot of stereotyping that we adults put onto the pre-teens and teens out there and I would challenge you to sign up to be parent help at these activities and be impressed with the reality of who these kids are.
Wonderful kids, figuring stuff out, trying, learning, putting into practice the values you have at home, and doing it with a fledgling sense of humour and wry acknowledgment that they don’t know everything …yet.
I’m back out there today – and I’m looking forward to it.