This morning I was squarely confronted by the problems of play. Personality is such an important part of children’s make-up. There is limited thought that goes along with kids reactions – they feel something, they react. Most reactions of course relate directly back to what comes most naturally in their personalities.
This morning I had a clash of personality.
Two children who like to play with their intuitive personality and two who like to play with their sensing personality.
So, this looks like a simple game of Lego, but it isn’t so simple.
Two children are playing a game, they keep themselves slightly removed, still tuned into their own selves, their own personalities. My other two children get themselves FULLY involved, fully into the play, the imagination, the play becomes real, the language they use is real, and they can’t see that play is pretend.
Most of the arguments, and sibling fights in our house come back to this difference in how my children play.
A simple game with Lego, turned into someone stealing things from the base, and breaching the defenses. And on the other side, they just wanted to have a turn with the Lego jewels.
Personality does impact in so many areas in our families that we may not initially see. The things that drive us crazy, like sibling arguments, or a friendly game that suddenly turns physical. Play is really important to kids, and as parents we just want them to play NICELY! And when that doesn’t happen we get so frustrated. But what if you knew why the play didn’t work? What if you could understand the frustration that they too are feeling?
There are ways to help kids get along in play even if they don’t have the same preferences.
If you are struggling with this too – then get in touch.