I like to be organised. I write lists, I plan for upcoming disasters, and I manage my home like a drill sergeant!
But I also have children who thrive in a loosey, goosey environment.
So, I get it!
I am one of those mums who fully believes that they’ll just all come right if I teach them how to be organized and routined….. Well I used to believe that! And I really, REALLY did believe it!
I believed that my way was the only right way, and my kids would figure it out with practice.
I’ve seriously re-thought that belief over the last couple of years of being a parent. We know that there is this ‘nature vs nurture’ debate, so we know that there are different things in our kids that they are born with, and yet we don’t really know what that means. And we fully believe that nurture will trump everything.
We need to nurture the nature that our children have, or as I like to say, we need to Parent by Personality.
And I have definitely learnt that when it comes to being spontaneous verses being organised, this comes down to how we prefer to have our world structured, and newsflash for me, a couple of my kids keep their energy higher, work more effectively, and are happier if I ‘plan’ spontaneity into their day – and yes I’m aware of the irony of that statement!
So, while spontaneity may not be my thing, as an adult and as a parent, I can cope better with changing things up then constantly forcing MY WAY down everyone’s throats. It doesn’t mean that I’ve lost my credibility as a parent, it doesn’t mean that I’m losing the battle with my kid, and it doesn’t mean that I’m failing in my nurturing role.
In fact, it’s the opposite.
By allowing myself permission to parent and raise my children in a way that better suits them, I am winning in every area of my parenting journey.
If you would like help to get to this place too, then I am avial able for a 20 minute chat anytime. This doesn’t mean that you are any obligations to me, or any further coaching, and I promise that even in 20 minutes I can give you some awesome ideas to move forward with. I love talking about parenting so don’t be shy!