The strengths and lessons that a Free-spirited perceiving personality can bring to a family are many, and hugely beneficial to kids.
But it is the same as my blog yesterday about being a “Micro-manager” – sometimes our very strengths can turn into weaknesses when we don’t allow our kids to grow in many ways. Just prioritising our own strengths doesn’t necessarily benefit our kids into growing into their own personality and strength.
Maybe you don’t like rules, and routines.
Maybe you like to “see what happens” before you make decisions.
Maybe you make decisions but then something better comes along and you switch ideas easily and excitedly.
Spontaneity and going with the flow, accepting change as it happens are all positive attributes to pass on to our kids, and yet we live in an organised and routine-filled community. Schools follow rules, laws are important, and most jobs expect routines to be followed to the letter. So, it is VERY important that we also encourage our children to accept, and be happy to follow rules as well.
For our kids to accept the rules, responsibilities and routines that come with going through the school years, with accepting our first jobs, with growing a career, and setting personal goals and achieving them we need to at least instill an acceptance and understanding of rules. And to do this, there needs to be some basic routines at home.
So, think about this ….
You might want to pull out your own teeth before you follow a routine yourself, but even if your children are like you, and definitely if they are the opposite type of personality to you, it is still important to have framework to help them learn some important life skills.
By helping our children grow into the best personalities that they can be, while also imparting important life stuff, is crucial to their happiness, and success as they grow.
Reflecting on our parenting practice and how we can be the best version of ourselves is something that doesn’t have to be a chore, and when you see the acceptance and growth that your kids are making it makes any initial frustration or hardship, worthwhile.