This is one of my challenges.
I am an analytical type of person, I love rules and routines, and I have a lot of opinions about parenting, about raising kids, and how my home should run. My strengths can also be my weaknesses though, unless I figure out how to give my kids space to get stuff done without me watching over their shoulder every step of the way.
This has been the happy outcome of rearranging our morning routine so that I can fit in a run. I set up the morning, do the kids reading and then head out the door. By the time I’m back from my 4km of exercise the kids have mostly finished everything off, and have taken their ownership of ticking off the list. When I am around I can’t help but be involved with conversation, with checking in, with hurrying them along in the morning routine.
If running the home-ship is your thing too, you might be able to take some ideas from this.
The other thing that I’m careful with as an over-organised mum is the homework dilemma. I make sure that I hold space so that homework can be completed, but I stay away from the work itself, I don’t help my kids with the content, or with the tidiness, or with their concepts. I WILL have conversations with them about homework as we are driving to and from school usually, or I ask questions to see if they understand what they are doing, and then I leave them to it.
It is very easy for a micro-managing type of mum, who has perfectionist tendencies to try and make any homework ‘perfect’ but this sort of ‘management’ often ends up being counterproductive to my goals as a mum. I am all about allowing my children to be the best version of THEMSELVES, not a smaller version of me.
These sorts of little things can help keep us micro-managers in check, so I hope this has been helpful for those of you who are similar to me.