The difference between the way that I run a morning in my home and how it is run by my husband is extraordinary.
We decided early on in having kids that it was obvious that I was a micro-manager and naturally tried to run everything my way, so we had to make sure that I didn’t completely overtake everything in the house. That sounds a little harsh but it’s an aspect of my personality, as well as my perfectionist tendencies. So, way back when we only had two kids, my husband took over the running of breakfast and the school lunches, and anything going on in the kitchen in the mornings.
He’s away for a couple of days though, and I just do it very differently:
- I monitor the kids lunch making more stringently and insisting on some things being in their lunches – he allows them to be creative, and choose their own lunches
- I run to a tighter schedule and everything is pretty much done by 7am – he allows them to take their time as long as it’s all done before 8am
- He starts the day with loud music – I prefer the TV news on in the background
Both versions are fine, and it really depends on your personality and your preferences to which one of these versions you more naturally felt drawn to. What is more important is that as mums we allow the dads, to do things their way sometimes, and for dads to let the mums do things THEIR way sometimes.
Children benefit from seeing their parents personalities working on a daily basis and in different ways. So instead of feeling threatened by the differences between you and your partner, embrace and find some amusement in the differences, and allow your kids to benefit from BOTH of you.