Even when you are on top of everything it can all fall down around your ears if S L E E P isn’t coming to the party.
It’s a pretty big deal.
I know that we all joke about the sleeplessness that comes with having kids, my husband jokes that he’s survived on 3-5 hrs a night for over 10 years. The thing is that it’s not really a joke, and it really impacts on our parenting, and on our coping.
Right now I’m going through a period of time where I’m falling asleep pretty well, but I’m waking through the night with bad dreams, and doing a lot of tossing and turning. I like to blame the full moon, but it’s taking me a bit to get my sleep back.
Stressing about it doesn’t help either.
Looking after yourself when you aren’t sleeping is the key, and if you relax it’ll come back.
Bedtime preparation for me includes:
- I turn the TV off pretty early in the evening, usually before 9pm.
- A cup of herbal tea is nice at night with some extra vitamins and supplements if you like that.
- Some downtime in bed with a book, or a journal
- Turning the lights out early so you can at least relax, even if sleep comes slowly.
If I’m going through a stage of not sleeping I try and look after myself the next day:
- Keep the routines smooth
- Drink plenty of water before my morning coffee
- Get some fresh air and exercise during the day
- 30 minutes of complete downtime during the day if possible
- I tend to get run down when I’m sleep deprived so I look after myself with lots of water during the day and healthy foods.
- Don’t take on extra stress.
Children are very good at pushing tired mums buttons, so I find that being honest with my kids helps a lot. I let them know I’m not feeling 100% and that I’m tired. Sometimes they help and sometimes they don’t, that’s the nature of kids, but I find that being honest is more beneficial than blowing my stack unexpectedly.
Once I’ve let my kids know I’m tired though, I try not to wallow in the drama of ‘being tired’ – it doesn’t serve me or anyone to wallow in …
T I R E D N E S S
I get on with my day as best I can, with as much energy as I can bring, and put one foot in front of the other. I focus on what I am doing, and get things done. By the time evening comes around again, I am pretty much spent when I’m in this cycle of sleep deprivation, but you can get through these cycles without doing bodily harm to everyone who crosses your path.
I’d love to hear how you juggle cycles of T I R E D N E S S or cycles of broken S L E E P.