A few minor things happened today in my conversations with my son, and it accumulated until I had to make a decision about whether I stood my ground on a relatively minor issue, or if it would really matter if I didn’t.
I chose to stand my ground.
I had to do it in public, with a tantrum looming, and a wide streak of stubbornness coming to the fore in my kid.
It made me think about when we make a stand as parents and when we let things slide. And we have to make these decisions every day – to stand or slide?
When is the right time to make a stand?
For me it comes down to repeat situations or if it is a situation which is a complete one-off.
If there is a question, or a rule that I have to enforce on a daily basis or once a week, then I am making a stand. By flip-flopping on these sorts of rules you can only waste your own energy justifying yourself afresh each time, each day, or each week.
If there is a situation that happens once a month, or only during a sports season, or a couple of times a year, then I am less inclined to push my stand just for the sake of it. And minor issues stay as minor and I can let them go.
How do you make decisions about making a stand?