No one told you parenting was easy.
No one said you would always get it right.
No one told you your kids would agree with your decisions.
No one told you that they would thank you.
And if you were told these things … You were lied to!
But, knowing all this, we still shy away from making difficult decisions in regards to our kids. We still get worried we are getting it wrong, or worried that our kids won’t like us for the decisions we make. Or, when it gets too difficult we let them make the decisions, and we trick ourselves into thinking that doing this means that we are ‘better’ parents, because we are making them responsible.
Here is the thing:
- You are the parent
- You have age and wisdom on your side
- You have experts you can call on if you want advice
- Yes, have discussions and conversation with your children, at every age, around any big decisions, BUT, the ultimate decision is YOURS.
So, what sort of big decisions am I talking about?
- what schools to send your kids to
- what sports your children are playing
- health decisions
- dietary decisions
- the extra-curricular activities your child participates in
- the decisions around responsibility and rules
- the decisions around friends, play dates, sleepovers, parties
- any decision that can cause some friction!
Making the hard, final decisions around the well being of your children is completely your role as a parent.
So, feel confident.
Understand you won’t always get it right.
Be strong in the face of ‘hate’ from your children.
Accept that there may be judgment.
Let go of any guilt, or regret about decisions.
Embrace the opportunity.