Monday – there’s a blah feeling that kids and parents alike get about Monday morning. Maybe they have had a busy, fun weekend and just want to keep having fun, something school can get in the way of. Maybe they have had a slow, quiet, relaxing weekend and haven’t managed to find their energy yet, happy to stay wallowing in nothingness, something that school also gets in the way of.
We too, can see Monday as a negative thing, the week stretching out in front of us without much exciting planned.
The thing is, this isn’t a ‘real’ problem. It’s not a ‘real’ issue. Hating Monday, is something we’ve told ourselves, learnt from a young age, or model on what others say.
If you have a child that hates getting up on a Monday for school, with negative feelings about the day ahead, and the feeling of ‘can’t be bothered’ or anxiety or stress, or flat out not wanting to go to school, then you need to change the language and energy around the beginning of the week.
If kids hear you complaining and groaning about Monday then they will too.
If kids see you struggling to get up and organised on a Monday then they will struggle too.
School and learning takes the right attitude in order to be successful. Kids need to be open to learn, excited to be in the space, and without stress and mental distractions.
Things you can cultivate around Monday’s include:
- An excitement to start the week afresh
- a feeling around what you can achieve in the week
- conversations around what is coming up in the week
- some organisation ( do it the night before if you struggle to stay motivated in the mornings)
- watch your own language -keep it light and positive around your kids.
- if you and your children do struggle, find some exciting incentives to look forward to on a Monday – make Monday the pocket money day, cultivate a fun tradition for Monday after school or evening
The language you use, the way you communicate with your children, the things you model, all have an influence on setting your child up right for school.
If you are nervous, they will be. If you are anxious, so to will they be. If you are frustrated, disorganised, stressed, running late … Then that energy and stress comes to school with your kids. Learning stalls when kids have other things on their mind. Set up Monday’s as a positive thing, save the groans and struggles you have with Minday-itis for your friends and help grow and develop new energy around Monday in your kids.
It really does help.
It really does work.
It sets your kids up for school in the best way.