Sometimes we know that things are going to end badly.
Sometimes we can predict hours in advance that a meltdown is brewing.
Sometimes we set our children up for failure!
It sounds crazy! It is crazy! But the worst part of this is, when the predicted, expected, and set up, meltdown occurs THEN we get annoyed or angry at our children!
The thing is, this happens easily, and regularly.
- We KNOW our kids need down time, and yet we have a BBQ planned.
- We KNOW our kids love routine, but we organise a crazy, busy, different kind of weekend.
- We KNOW that we need to give more hugs and cuddles and have more one-on-one conversation and yet, there is a big work expectation this week so we prioritise that.
This is life.
But … When we go through these times of upheaval and setting up potential issues in our families we have to remember that WE did it. Our children are just reacting to the scenarios that WE have set up. So, in some respects, we have set up that meltdown, that tantrum, that tiredness …
If you find yourself in this situation, just breathe!
We had a bonfire, and BBQ over the weekend, and I have tired children, so I was well aware that the next day was going to be problematic. And it was. But it was okay.
When you have set up a situation, like a BBQ and the kids have all had fun, but they are over stimulated and over-tired then it makes sense that their coping the next day will be an issue. So, when my kids fired up on the Sunday, I just stayed calm, and made sure that I provided lots of downtime the next day.
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