I read the other day a quote that went like this:
“Give as much love to your child as you can, but you can’t give them your thoughts; they have their own thoughts.”
I don’t even know who to credit this too as I can’t find it, but I feel that this is so true.
I truly believe that our children are their own people,and are not even really a reflection of us, their parents. Some of their mannerisms maybe, some of the word inflexions, but the way they think? No.
It’s not likely that there would be an exact replica in your home. It could happen, and it has in my own family with one of my kids and my hubby, but even though they think similar, they still don’t REACT exactly the same in a situation.
As an adult, my husband has learnt to do things a certain way, understand things a certain way, sometimes even against his natural inclination because he decides it’s the right thing. My child, with the same personality traits has none of the wisdom of my hubby, and all of the carefree attitude of childhood, and so even though they are similar, we still CANNOT force our thoughts onto him. He has his own.
But … You can “GIVE as much love as you can to your child” – I love this. If we all came to parenting from a place of giving love, but allowing our chiLoren to have their own thoughts, a lot of our own stress and angst around parenting would be released.
Have a good week xx