This morning I’m tired.
I dragged myself out of bed for a run, and I absolutely felt better after that, but it was freezing out there and felt like the first day of true Autumn. And I’m tired.
There’s a ‘thing’ where we can be made to feel guilty by saying things like ‘I’m tired’. Apparently focusing on the negative doesn’t help you feel better, but when did “I’m tired” turn into a negative?
But, maybe, just maybe – feeling tired – is perhaps a ‘clue’ that you need to take some time to look after yourself. This doesn’t necessarily mean, take to your bed for a week. If I tried to do that I would end up feeling more tired, and more stressed.
Looking after Number 1 is about finding what fuels you, what lifts you up, and then following through to help yourself feel better, and more energized.
And this comes back to your personality, so not every fueling activity may actually energize you. Even if it energizes your friends, or your family. So, take some time to fully understand yourself, and figure out what is the right thing for you.
This can be hard.
It’s not easy to know what it is that you REALLY need, when we can be stuck in our own tiredness, or our stress, or our frustration.
This morning for me, it’s about tapping into my need to ‘get-things-achieved’. Other days I need to get out and about and be around people, and other days I need to be organised, or energetic.
We are not one dimensional. There are so many facets to our personalities and on any given day we can tap into different parts of ourselves. The problem is that we often just keep going back to the tried and true- same thing every day activities, and can neglect parts of our personality that can really help us get through this parenting gig.
So, yes, today I am feeling tired. But I’m not guilty about that, and I don’t feel bad about that either. I’m just taking my time with things this morning, feeling what I need to do, rather than rushing around. Two coffees this morning, and some food, and then just slowly started getting some work done, and ticking off my list early in the day. I’ve also got some background noise as a distraction, since oftentimes I find silence hard to work in, which is why I often go to a cafe to stay focused on any given task. Today, with a lot on my plate, and still needing focus, the background TV is enough to keep me going.
And I’m feeling better.
My energy is up already. I’m typing faster on the computer, and my mind is more active than it was an hour ago, when I thought that I might have taken myself back to bed I was so not enthused. I’ll also take some time later to get outside in the sun, and be away from the computer for a time.
Looking After Number 1 this morning means that my energy will be replenished by the time I pick up the kids from school. Tiredness does not always mean that you need a sleep, it may mean that you are just drained by the drudgery part of your day, and you need a ‘Pick-me-Up’ ….
Take the time to figure out what you need for you, when you start feeling tired, stressed or frustrated and angry.
Remember – you ABSOLUTELY can be the parent that you want to be.
Have a lovely day out there today