Am I ungrateful?
Am I missing the point?
I’m just not so sure about the whole Mother’s Day thing. I didn’t grow up with it being a massive big deal. I didn’t do much more than the school-made cards that we used to bring home… Or I don’t remember doing much more.
I love presents. I love getting things that I want… And yet – every year – Mather’s Day is all about standing on the side of the soccer field supporting my kids and freezing my butt off.
I think there can be a lot of pressure to FULLY enjoy the day. FULLY embrace the day. FULLY revel in being a mum.
I used to feel a bit let down about all that, because I didn’t really get it, and I didn’t feel the need to have this ‘Mother’s Day’ thing to bring me self-worth as a mum, or to give me ‘time-off’ from my life so that I can have a break.
BUT – I also know a lot of mums, who fully embrace it and fully love the whole thing. And get a lot of kudos, energy, love and appreciation for it.
I’m not suggesting any of that is wrong – just that I didn’t get it. Now, years into this parenting gig – I understand why, some of us are into it and love it, and some of us just aren’t.
It’s all down to what comes naturally to our Personalities, and NONE of us are wrong in having differing opinions – it’s purely that we are different.
So, embrace who you are as a mum this week. Embrace the things that you enjoy about parenting, you fully don’t have to be jealous, or bring up comparison with your friends Facebook feeds, or Insta photos. Don’t compete with your friends Snapchats, or feel like you NEED to feel any different than you NATURALLY do. You don’t even need to share your Mum Day stuff with anyone, or Like any photos or feeds.
The biggest thing that I advocate as a parenting coach is that WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT.
There is NO ‘one-fit-fits-all’ approach to raising kids, and there is NO ‘one-fit-fits-all’ to WHO you are supposed to act and feel as a mum. Comparison and guilt can suck the life out of parenting, and also do damage to your ACTUAL relationship with your kids. Do you authentically. Do you naturally. Do you to the best of your ability, and there is NO right way to feel about ANY of it.
Celebrate YOUR version of being a mum today. For me, it is all about getting up early – journaling, meditating, mindset work, then a run with my dogs (and my daughter this morning) before dropping the kids at school and heading to a quiet cafe for a coffee and work.
You can ABSOLUTELY be the parent that you want to be – you just have to know what that is.
I tailor my 1:1 coaching to suit you and your family. You don’t have to have a ‘bad’ situation or, anything going wrong to call on me as a parenting coach. I also help you get your groove back as a mum, and an individual, and show you how to make an even BETTER impact on your parenting than what you currently do. So, get in touch – our first initial get together is completely free, so that you can understand if I can help you without any stress or expectation – Don’t be shy.