Staring at the blank page does not make for good writing.
It doesn’t give good advice.
It doesn’t speak to where I am as a mum right now, and it doesn’t tell any part of my parenting.
But maybe it sort of does.
Only two kids in the house, and it definitely feels off.
I’m missing my kids.
Yep it’s only one night.
Yep it’s great that they are out there having fun, and doing sport.
But they are also doing something I hated.
I hated being billeted for sports exchanges, or for choir trips, or for school trips of any kind. I was at boarding school as well, so you’d think I would cope better with it, but it was almost worse. I was talking to my sister about it, and she hated it too. I’ve been talking to other adults yesterday about the sports exchange, and we are all a bit nervous over it, and none of us liked it. Some parents even went up to where the sports exchange was and stayed with their own kids in a motel so that they didn’t have to be billeted.
Naturally, my hubby loved being billeted on exchanges and sees the whole thing as an adventure, but when he understood how much I hated it, he was surprised and pleased that I’d let it happen at all for our kids.
I hope I didn’t put my fears onto my kids, but when I was already getting upset phone calls from one child before lunchtime, and then never heard from the other until 8pm, I was wondering about the place for these kinds of sports exchanges.
These days might be better because of access to cell phones, and the kids do have their own phones and can get in touch if needed – except for the child who is staying outside of cell coverage on a farm-
I also feel that all families feel a little bit of the fear of sending our kids to stay at strangers houses and I feel that families now make bit more of an effort to make the kids feel comfortable.
In any case, I’m hoping to hear from my children this morning, and they’ll be supporting their school teams before heading back to Cromwell this afternoon.
And I’ll be very happy to have them back home.
And next year, the sports exchange will be in Cromwell, so I’ll happily billet a couple of kids, and be thankful that mine are at home.
I’m hoping by the time the wee boys get to College billeting might be a thing of the past… Wishful thinking?
Enjoy the weekend.
Enjoy your children.
Have an adventure or do something different.
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