I’m standing on the sideline of my son’s soccer game and I’ve found myself on the side of the field with the opposition parents and supporters.
And I’m feeling uncomfortable.
Not because of where I’m standing but because of the sideline commentary that is nasty in it’s intent and content. It’s inflammatory and it’s degrading AND it’s from kids.
Kids that are standing by their parents with their coaches and supporters and not one person is trying to calm it down or suggest that the kids are supportive rather than nasty.
But it’s not the parents. It’s the kids. So if the parents are quiet does that mean it’s NOT their fault?
And here is why I’m uncomfortable.
If parents are listening to this isn’t it just condoning it?
If parents are allowing the vitriol and nastiness, aren’t they just as culpable?
It’s never okay to let that stuff go.
And of course, now that the game is over and all the kids have left the sideline, now the parents are saying it was probably a bit too much.
You can’t condone stuff because it’s ‘sport’ and then when it’s over suddenly get your morals sorted again.
Do you really know WHAT your parenting morals and beliefs are? Sometimes this sort of stuff happens NOT because we don’t know what’s right or wrong, but we don’t know how to articulate WHAT it us that we ACTUALLY believe in.
When you are at your children’s sport this coming weekend, just check in that there is being good sportsmanship bring shown by everyone around you, the kids too.
One of the things I teach is ‘finding your lane’ – I help parents figure out THEIR thing, THEIR style, and to feel comfortable raising kids from THAT place. Get in touch if you want to find out more about it. Our first conversation is just for fun, and no pressure to go any further with me, so it’s a no-brainer AND I give you some basic tips and tricks as well.
You can ABSOLUTELY be the parent that you want to be, and I can help you figure it out.
Stephanie Davis is the leading parenting expert in ‘Parenting by Personality’ and coaches parents on how to raise KICKARSE and SUCCESSFUL children while maintaining third own sense of individuality and style.