There’s always something going on with kids, and with your home environment that isn’t quite gelling. If it’s not your 2 year old struggling with talking, it’s your 13 year old struggling with completing anything.
But it’s not all a disaster, no matter how frustrating and brain numbing it seems to be.
Most struggles that happen in our families happen exactly the same way every single time.
It’s either a time of day, or a particular day, or during a particular activity, and if you can figure it out, then you can step up and make changes that DO make a difference.
In my house the morning can be a bit hit and miss, so it’s really important that I’m up early, I’m in the kids space and I’m paying attention. Breakfast time can become competitive really quickly, all the kids making their lunches in a small space and moving past each other constantly can become a battle- ground.
But I don’t just throw my hands up and complain about it.
I don’t just accept that that’s just the way my kids are, and it’s normal to start every day with an argument.
I’m in there, and was paying attention when after one child set the breakfast table by themselves, and another child swooped in and tried to grab the Weetbix first and start breakfast FIRST (first is an important thing for breakfast eating apparently).
I was watching the goings on in the pantry while I drank my morning coffee, and watched and pulled up the kid that lifted their leg up in an ‘innocent’ attempt to get in another kids way while they were walking past.
Catching those two moments was all it took for everything to calm down, and for the morning to now move smoothly, without grumpiness, or defensiveness, or kids feeling ‘hard-done-by’.
There are other ways that you can get past these problems that I have, like setting the table the night before, or I could make the kids lunches myself so that they are not all on top of each other. I don’t choose to do either of those things, but I know that this is what works best in other families.
Other moments of stress happen getting into and out of the car, after school, during bath and shower time, in the evening for dinner, and during play. These have all been moments of stress for my clients that we have come up with ways to bring the energy down and to make those stressful moments manageable, and even fun.
There is no reason to complain, or to moan about this stuff, you can always step up and change any of it.
I believe that you can ABSOLUTELY be the parent that you want be, and raise your children the best way for you without stress, and frustration. I am here to help you find your way with this and to help you figure out where the stress, and trigger points are, and to help you find more ‘sweet spots’ in your parenting.
Don’t be shy, and get in touch.
Its the middle of June, which means I start having conversations with mums and dads that are wanting to start 1:1 coaching in my July intake. My prices will be going up in July too, so get in before that happens.
Have a great day out there today.
Stephanie Davis is the leading expert in ‘Parenting by Personality’ and coaches parents on how to raise KICKARSE and SUCCESSFUL children, while keeping their own style and individuality.