Water, coffee and wine… The holiday curse.
The holidays are messing with my normal liquid consumption.
I know that this may seem less important for parenting but you’d be wrong.
This is completely relevant.
Normally, I drink a heap of water. Every time I drive anywhere I have multiple water bottles in my car door, and I have created an awesome habit around drinking water. Every time I got out of the car for a client meeting, or a cafe work date, or to pick my kids up from school, I would carry a water bottle with me.
However, I’m currently on school holidays, and the water drinking has become non-existent! I’m not driving anywhere, and therefore that means no water.
On the other side of this I’m also normally on a relatively strict coffee drinking habit. Two a day is mostly the limit, and I typically don’t have a coffee past lunchtime, for no other reason except that I’ve normally already had two coffees by then.
However that is also all askew, and this week I’m probably up to 5 coffees a day, AND I even bought a large cappuccino after 3pm on Monday……?
And wine? Well, that isn’t as bad as it could be, but it was noted that there were 3 different bottles of wine open last night, red, rose, and a white. And because I’m not rushing kids around as much in the holidays, I’m having a glass earlier in the evening
How is this relevant to parenting?
I’m waking up not firing on all cylinders.
I’m not making great decisions as a result.
AND I feel like I’m letting myself down by not following my normal healthy routine, and my vibe is low.
A couple of days relaxing and not thinking about stuff like this is fine, but now that we are at Weds, I’ve had enough of these kind of changes, and I need to pick up the normal stuff again. Waking up feeling dehydrated, maybe with a slight headache, not sleeping great and then automatically wanting to reach for a coffee when I wake up, is not something that I can maintain happily.
The thing with coffee and wine, is that reaching for another mug, or another glass, is a bit of boredom, it’s a distraction, it’s a perception of survival, it’s habit. And I’m not trying to make a big deal about it, but I am definitely aware that during times of school holidays, and times of change, good intentions tend to go a little wayward.
And when you are looking after your children, and getting limited Time-out from them, then trying to stay strong on parenting goals, on good intentions, and on making good decisions becomes really hard.
It doesn’t mean that you should just give up in the holidays though. You just need to be aware of where you are sabotaging yourself, and then re-commit to making better decisions.
So, I know that I should be drinking the equivalent of 3 litres of water a day, which seems crazy, and I struggle with it a lot, but 2 litres is doable, so that’s the plan. As a result I’m hoping that naturally the wine and coffee ‘need’ is lessened.
I am also thinking that if I have slacked with my water intake then my kids are probably dehydrated too, so that’s going to be my parenting commitment today.
What are you struggling with this week?
What are you sabotaging yourself with? (Food, TV, computers, coffee, alcohol, sugar, exercise? )
How can you pull yourself back from the brink?
Trust me when I say… If you are looking after yourself, prioritizing yourself, not being in guilt, not sabotaging your good intentions, them parenting is easier!
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Stephanie Davis is the leading expert in ‘Parenting by Personality’ and coaches mums on raising KICKARSE and SUCCESSFUL children at every age and stage from early childhood through to the late teenage years.