I’ve been pondering this lately – Is parenting supposed to be hard?
A lot of people would say that yes it is, and I can’t disagree with them completely. Others say no it isn’t, and I can’t disagree with them either. So what makes parenting a joy for some and a headache for others?
There are a few factors that could make a difference:
- Number of children a family has
- The support within the family
- Both parents still in the home, or single parenthood
- Monetary wealth of the family
A lot of that list is just what it is. There is not much to be done to make parenting easier if you spend a lot of your time focusing on the ‘lack’ that you have. Be it the ‘lack’ of support, lack of money, or the lack of a relationship, often these thoughts just cause frustration, anger, resentment and the perception and reality is that thinking about it makes parenting harder. The number of children within a family is completely dependent on the individual family. Some people would say that having more children makes parenting easier, others would say that one child is all they could cope with. These are individual decisions, and I would suggest that however you think about what the number of children means to you, than THAT is probably the truth for you. If you think it doesn’t matter, it won’t. If you think the number of children is detrimental to your parenting THAT is probably true to you too.
What this sounds like to me, is that a lot of confidence and happiness around parenting can come down to changing your mind-set around it. Yes parenting can be hard, and yes there are moments of every day that feel hard to me too, and yet there are so many ways to make it just a little bit easier.
I’m developing a weekly tip sheet, that will deliver small reminders and tips about how to make parenting a more fun and happy place for you to be.
Stay tuned …