So, this morning I found myself in a café with a friend that I hadn’t seen in a long time enjoying a coffee and not feeling at all guilty about not working, or cleaning, or exercising or anything … this morning I was treating myself.
It wasn’t as if there was anything major that had happened that required a tangible reward, it was more a wee pat on the back for the constant small steps that I was taking towards my “Happy Life”.
I had finally set up a ‘Kids Computer’ in our home – with a password and security – from my old laptop. This is something that has needed to be done for a while, and was just in the way too hard basket. It needed my stuff taken off it, it needed updating, and I needed to take off the old security and put on the current years’ internet security. It was just step-after-step of slow-going and frustration. But it is now done.
It has created a new reward system in our house for the kids, and new leverage for bad behaviour. So there are un-expected benefits from the ‘Kids Computer’ that I hadn’t factored in, but are now helping to create a calmer, happier space.
It got me thinking though about REWARDS, and TREATING OURSELVES …
We don’t do it enough, we just plug away at the same old, same old stuff. Moan about the same stresses, instead of thinking if I do ‘this’ today I will treat myself with ‘that’ tomorrow … not only does this make the job less difficult and less depressing, it also helps bring up our vibration and energy, and fills our Mum Glow cup – self-love.
Too often ‘self-love’ (Mum Glow) is tainted by guilt or lack of seeing – if you were to write down ten things that you have achieved this week … and look at those things, and read them out loud, how could you not feel good about yourself? And if you feel good about yourself, and are aware of the things that get done in a day, or a week, how can you not treat/ reward yourself? Something as small as a coffee, or a turmeric tea (like a friend of mine today), or a new book from the library, can make such a major difference to our ability to cope as a Mum.
And then when we are aware of the benefit of reward, we pass this lesson on to our children. We create opportunities for our kids to succeed, to be rewarded, and through this we create a happier home. Don’t knock the benefits of feeling good – it just takes you acknowledging the successes you are having, and the rest flows from there.
Today is about reward/ a pat on the back/ treating yourself … don’t be shy about acknowledging your greatness.